My opinion vs Gods opinion

THE ONLY OPINION THAT MATTERS IS GODS

“For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

Galatians 1:10

Wanting to fit in is completely normal, natural and even in the human nature. Everybody wants to fit in, in some way or another. Whether you want to fit in to make friends, or you want the boy to like you, the teacher to like you, maybe you want someone else’s family or friends to like you. Maybe you are simply trying to impress someone, like a new boss. Whatever the case or cause there is always a part of us that wants to fit in. Even the “leaders” are guilty of this.

Here’s some things to think about through this message;

1. In what ways do I want to fit in?

2. What things do I change about myself to make others happy?

3. Am I happy with who I mold myself into to fit someone else’s versions of me?

For me, fitting in became pretty much a lifestyle when I was a teenager. I always wanted to wear nice brands of clothing, have the newest gizmos and gadgets. If the popular girls started wearing a certain thing or sporting a new trend, then I had to be right there with them doing the same thing. If getting acrylic nails was in style, you better believe I was begging my mom to take me out for mani pedis. I was never satisfied just being myself. I mean, I thought being myself would be weird. I wanted to fit in. I wanted to look the part of the role everyone was playing. And I was good at it.

If the girls around me were saying cuss words I would occasionally say one too just to seem cool or like I was in with that crowd. Call it fake, call it being a follower, call it being a people pleaser, all of these names are exactly right for how I was acting.

I was so lost in the crowd I forgot who I even was to begin with.

Ladies, I’m gonna tell you something. Something you already know.

Girls. Are. Mean.

We just are. We are mean and judgmental. We are filled with gossip, he said she said. We just are. Being drama queens is just in our nature. And making girlfriends can be extremely hard. Especially finding some that aren’t in it to fit in, but who are genuine, real and just truly themselves. But it doesn’t have to be this way, we don’t have to be this way-

I always struggled making friends that were girls. I would try to fit in with them until we got close enough that I could be myself and every time I would make it to that point they would walk away and I would be left alone.

I read a quote the other day when I was scrolling through Instagram, and it said;

“Can we teach our daughters and future daughters to see each other as sisters, and not competitors? Can we teach them to empower each other, not degrade each other. Let the upcoming generations rise above pettiness”

When I read this it was like, “boom! God smacked!”

Girls, stop caring about what everyone thinks! Stop caring about if that girl down the hall is staring at you. Stop caring about fitting in to be popular. Just STOP. It is not worth your time or energy.

God made you in his image, to be EXACTLY who he created you to be. No amount of faking it will ever be able to change that.

God says,

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.”

Matthew 7:1-2

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them! Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand— when I awake, I am still with you.”

Psalm 139: 13-18

Here’s my challenge for you;

Everyday start telling yourself things that you love about yourself. Start telling God things that you love about yourself that he created. Start finding joy in who you are rather than picking yourself apart and trying to remake yourself. Let your inner lights shine. Be the beautiful women of Christ God made you to be.